• Make Peace, Not War, and Other Holiday Tips

    The holidays are the most festive time of year, but they can also be the most tension-filled. Here are some tips on how to have a low-stress season.

    • At the holidays, think merry and bright vs. serious and somber. Like eggnog, the conversation should be light.

    • Agree that it’s okay to disagree with family, friends and party acquaintances, and then avoid the subjects you disagree on. Don’t discuss finances, health problems, politics, religion, marital secrets or office gossip.

    • Be sure and RSVP to a party invitation. Your host will need a head count for food and beverages.

    • Dress for success. Holiday time is a time to wear something special, and it’s always better to be overdressed than underdressed. If you’re unsure what to wear, ask your host.

  • Let’s Give Thanks

    If you’re nervous about hosting Thanksgiving dinner, follow my friends-and-family holiday guide. It’s failproof. Dress code: Thanksgiving is a casual, fun-filled day, so “smart casual” is the way to go: slacks, sweaters, comfortable clothes to allow for extra helpings of turkey and carbs. Mix up the guests: Family tension can run high during the holidays,…

  • Wow, That Was Fast! — RSVP Etiquette

    We are probably all guilty of failing to RSVP promptly or even at all. It’s one of those things we tend to put off, especially when we have to send regrets. I have yet to meet a friend, client, or caterer who does not complain about late or skipped RSVPs, when in reality it only…

  • Judging a Book by Its Cover: Party Don’t-Forgets

    ‘Tis the season. September marked the opening of the San Francisco social season. First came the opera and then the symphony. Both were glamorous black-tie, see-and-be-seen events. Unfortunately, evening gowns and tuxedos don’t always equal good behavior. Great Britain’s authoritative bible on social etiquette, Debrett’s Correct Form, clearly spells out the right behavior for social…

  • As a Manner of Fact: Party Tips

    Don’t laugh at the subtitle “Party Tips.” If I had a dollar for every mistake I’ve made throwing a party, I’d be rich. There really are ways to make your next party memorable in a good way. Here are some questions and answers that sum up what I’ve learned about entertaining others: • What is…