You may not be a minimalist, but many people, especially as they age, live by the idiom “Less is more.” I’m in the same camp. In general, we do get when we give, but when we give items that are too personal, chances are the recipient won’t use them. If you can’t eat, drink or…
If you don’t know how to put your best foot forward, chances are you won’t do it on the job. It’s called a first impression because we only have one shot at it. Body language is key. 60 to 70 % of what we communicate has nothing to do with words. We communicate by the…
FACT: People like to do business with people they like, which makes sense when research shows we form 90% of our opinion in the first 90 seconds of a meeting. The goal is to let your first impression shine to get ahead, not to be left behind. With so much focus on technology, there is…
“One way to be popular is to listen attentively to a lot of things you already know.” -George Bernard Shaw How To Master Small Talk. The definition of small talk includes light conversation and idle banter; it’s what people say to one another to be social because it breaks the ice. By asking general questions, people…
When I was training to be an etiquette expert in Washington, D.C., 20+ years ago, the first tip I learned stuck with me: Repeat a person’s name three times in conversation to remember it. It really works because repetition plants the name in your brain quickly. Here are some other handy tips: When You First…
Forget Your Manners With The Staff. From the front desk to housekeeping, concierge, and anyone else attending to your every need. Forget Gratuity. Housekeeping cleans your room nightly so don’t forget to leave a nightly tip. I like to do so at the beginning of my trip, but you can also leave it at the end.…
6 Things You Should Never Ask Your Neighbor To Do: Pick Up Dog Poop. We have all experienced this kind of neighbor, so don’t be that person. Carry plastic bags and do it yourself. Referee Family Quarrels. This is your problem not theirs. Leave the neighbors out of family issues. Ask The Cost Of Things.…
The anytime gift is one of my favorite things. Ditch the gift card for a gift. Throw a gift receipt in the bag so the present can be returned if the recipient doesn’t like it, and they'll be able to exchange it for something else. Here are my 9 items that can be gifted at…
Are you a Jetsetter? If not, there are some basic travel items that are a necessity, and you don’t have to search very hard to find them. All of these I have purchased for myself, family and friends, and they have proven to be useful. Not fancy. Useful. Hotel Room Flashlights. These are a must…
Is it okay to register for gifts for your baby's birthday party? Proper etiquette dictates never to ask for gifts. A baby birthday party registry is no exception. Most people bring gifts for first birthday parties...even though technically, a one-year-old may not need a pile of gifts for their birthday—a gift registry for a birthday…
Double Lock Your Door. Even when you’re not sleeping. Wash Your Hands. We learned this at five and during COVID. Keep going. Unpack on a Luggage Rack. If there isn’t one, place a towel on the bed to protect your bedding. Sanitize Your Room. Carry alcohol wipes to wipe down high traffic areas and don’t…
For as long as I can remember, I've loved photos. In high school, I had a bulletin board the size of my wall covered in pictures of friends and family. When I returned for Christmas break during my first year of college, my mother had taken it down, and I was devastated. Fast forward 30…
Love the blended words ‘stay’ and ‘vacation.’ I choose the latter. Every January since COVID, my husband and I decided to embark on a new adventure until we can’t. Last year it was Arizona, this year it’s Hawaii. It’s business as usual only on foreign land, hence the stay part of the vacation. We have…
Whether you're a child or an adult, bullying is real. But with adults, we often avoid conversations because they have higher consequences. I learned from experience that anyone can get a master's in common sense, but that doesn't mean you can't or won't feel intimidation. The unknown is a scary place, but life is far…
As the World Turns, It’s Not All About You | Golden Rules Gal Read on if you know someone who constantly makes everything about themselves. It’s not unusual to know someone who’s self-centered, but when they have little consideration for others, it’s a sure sign of narcissism. How to recognize the signs? Try…
8 Tips to Enhance Your Next Gambling Experience: 1.Understand the Rules before You Play. If you’re unsure, ask the dealer. 2. Keep Your Gambling Drama Free and Follow Etiquette Rules. Everyone enjoys the game, but you must play by the rules, and in casinos, they are very specific. 3. Tip the Dealer. …
Did you ever wish you could have lived in another era to see how communication would have been received? I’ve been thinking about writing this post ever since my husband and I traveled on the Orient Express. There was a guest during cocktails who was appalled at the dress of another younger woman. She shot…
Compliment Their Appearance. 80 is the new 60, and since I know many people (women) in their late eighties, I make it a point to comment on how terrific they look. Let Them Know They’re Appreciated. We have so much to learn from anyone older than we are. It’s a shame the way society shuns…
I don’t know what made me remember this. Maybe because I’m writing this during my anniversary month, I thought about how lucky I’ve been to have a wonderful family and extended family. My aunt, Agnes, who hosted a bridal shower for me, had everyone ‘present’ me a note of advice. I thought it was archaic…
The end of each year and then the beginning of the next is a great time for reflection. Reflection about life, gratitude, health, or whatever needs movement in your life. While etiquette is not an obligation, the rules of polite behavior should follow us wherever we go. Here is a reminder of some etiquette rules…
Mail Carrier. It’s against the law to give them cash, so how about a gift card or something homemade. Pool Service. Anyone who performs a service deserves a gratuity. Personal Trainer. How about a bottle of champagne or a gift certificate? Garage Attendants. If you park in the garage on a monthly basis, a…
If you’re tired of your tree ornaments year after year, it may be time for a change. Themes are fun, interactive, and can really show your personality when guests arrive. I have chosen a few of my favorites from the past, present, and future to brighten things up: London (Or Your Favorite City). I’m a…
The pandemic affected many facets of our lives and not only changed the way we lived but how we grieved. While experiencing loss during the pandemic, we realized just how many groups of people it touched. It affected the compromised and our close inner circles: children, parents, and siblings. COVID woke us up and retaught…
Short on cash? Welcome to the world where no one wants to break the bank in December. It’s easy not to as there are so many fun ways to give without overspending. If you’re on a tight budget, you can give something small. It really is just the thought that counts. If they’re friends or…
Whether you’re having a party in Las Vegas, Mykonos, or at home, take care of your guests in these ways: 1. Provide Pool Essentials. The obvious is sunscreen, towels, food and beverage. Don’t forget to keep everybody hydrated with copious amounts of water. This cannot be overstated. 2. Pool Favors. Gift bags will actually be…
Many stories begin with 'Once upon a time.' Once upon a time, there was a princess who became a queen. When Queen Elizabeth died in 2022, the world was licensed to weep for the longest-reigning Monarch in history. Seven decades after her coronation, a new Carolean era began. The life of a royal is about…
1. Be engaging. There’s nothing worse than a party guest who is a wallflower. You were invited to add something, so make sure you mingle, and if dinner is seated, always talk to the person on both your left and right sides so no one has to see your back the entire time. 2. Mingle…
Proper etiquette dictates never to ask for gifts. A wedding or shower registry is no exception. How can we best craft the messaging around this registry? Easy: It's much more polite to pass on this message verbally without mentioning it on the invitation. If someone asks, you can give them the information, but it's one…
There are always more don’ts than do’s, so let’s start there. My job is to give you clarity on golden rules, so here are my never do tips: 1. Don’t forget to include close friends and family. That also includes family-to-be and your wedding party. 2. Don’t “Post for Your Host.” Chances are there will be…
Oh, how much has changed since the marriage of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. Today, I’m sharing a look back at my five days in England in 2018 and having a front row seat to Ms.Markle’s royal debut. Departure With little sleep, lots of coffee, and a pillbox of Ambien, I was on my way,…
As I get ready to travel to London to celebrate the coronation of HRH King Charles III, I find myself reminiscing about the time I spent in England almost 12 years ago to date, celebrating the marriage of the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge . The London Evening Standard exclaimed, “Bride and Joy.” The Sunday…
What to expect when you’re expecting a royal disaster? Hopefully not any more ‘D’ words: disrespect, disaster, distaste. After Prince Harry’s war of words with his family, he’s coming home. May is associated with Germanic roots meaning to be able, strong, and powerful. HRH King Charles III holds power, but the question remains: will the…
A tea without scones is like a meal without a fork! Here are five useful tips on how to host a vintage tea party: 1. What to Wear? Vintage means retro. If you don't have it in your closet, rent it. If you're not sure about the dress, ask your host or Google it. 2.…
Money conversions abroad are vastly different from the United States. Americans are now embarking on international trips after a long hiatus. Below are some common gratuity scenarios. 1. Should I leave hotel staff tips? Tour guides, servers, and staff say they depend on these tips even though there may not be any gratuities in that…
One of my favorite sayings is always be kind, so you never have to rewind. Nowadays, it is so easy to show gratitude, given what our world has been through since the Pandemic of 2020. My favorite way of expressing gratitude is by offering kindness; generational kindness is even better. We often overlook the silver…
Whether you have food restrictions (vegan, vegetarian, etc.), allergies, or are just a picky eater, it can be challenging when eating as a guest. However, it can also be challenging for hosts. Here are a few pointers for guests and hosts dealing with food restrictions. 1. Does veganism fall under a “special guest” category? A…
When I repeat the same words and phrases repeatedly, it makes me pause and think, why am I doing this? Do I need to expand my vocabulary? Should I be reading more? I guess an easier explanation is that 'repeat' words fill space, much like certain friends, talk news, and coffee. Now acronyms I love,…
1. Arrive early enough to enjoy the perks. Espresso, newspapers, massage? 2. Do a walkthrough upon arrival to determine your best seat. Larger lounges are in larger metropolitan cities. 3. Keep your eye on the time. No one announces gates anymore. 4. Wear headphones when making calls. Same if you’re watching a movie or listening…
When it comes to table manners, fish is not the easiest of the main courses to consume. Between the bones, whole bodies, skins, and heads, it's not appetizing until you know how to eat it. Here is a short list to make it simple: 1. Caviar. Because fish eggs are delicate, it's eaten in small…
You are crushing on someone, or they may be crushing on you. Either way: Have your flirting tips handy in your back pocket. 1. Offer a compliment. Sincere and PG only, please. 2. Use appropriate body language. A wink or smile will go a long way as long as it’s not physically uncomfortable. 3. Smile.…
On a recent girls' trip, a dear friend gave me some sage advice about money. She said, "Money screams, wealth whispers." No matter how much money you have, when you scream, "I'm rich," you share in ways you may not be aware of, or perhaps because you want others to know how important you are.…
It might seem like an insignificant piece of card stock, but in the 19th and early 20th century, social interaction was a well-mannered affair. The tool that facilitated these interactions was the calling card; they streamlined introductions and helped remind people of new acquaintances and needed visits. The calling card also served as a way to brand…
Like Auntie Mame, why not be the life of the party in your own home? Covid has given us ample time at home to learn how to work with what we already have. We have also learned how to think out of the box and to be clever and creative. Improvement to your home or…
An Open Letter to Prince Harry Your Royal Highness, I am the last person who should be lecturing you about manners, especially as your grandmother, the queen, was a role model to the world. She did it for 70 long years! With great ease and ‘seldom’ using her voice, she showed us what it was…
Servers are brand ambassadors. They are an extension of you while you are entertaining. Think of it like this: You are the movie’s director, and they are the crew while your production is taking place. It would be silly for you to do anything other than treat them with utmost respect so they will let…
The end of each year and the beginning of the next is a great time for reflection about life, gratitude, health, or whatever needs movement in your life. While etiquette is not an obligation, the rules of polite behavior should follow us wherever we go. Here is a reminder of some etiquette rules that never…
The Pandemic of 2020 was a game changer in more ways than one. Overnight, we went from using cash to credit because of germs. Even when I want to pay cash I can’t because policies have changed. Here are four questions that might help you deal with credit versus cash. 1. If a service has…
We’ve been out of practice for quite some time, but now is the time to get out your party shoes. Even if it’s via Zoom, learn how to ask questions to engage with other people. You only have one chance at a good first impression, so break the ice, make a connection, and have a…
You’ve been invited to a party. You RSVP yes. The day before the party your husband gets Covid, so you’re both quarantined. Sound familiar? Everyone I know is going through this or will go through this. Plans were made to be changed especially in this day and age. Here are 5 ways to tell your…
Express yourself. It's the most wonderful time of the year, so let your loved ones know how wonderful they are. You might think it, but now it's time to show it. Actions speak louder than words, and I cannot think of a better gift. President Kennedy reminded us, "As we express our gratitude, we must…
Say, “Thank you.” Make eye contact. Answer the telephone with your first name. Hold the door open. Write thank you notes. Be respectful. Be polite. Offer to help clean the table after dinner. Be helpful without being asked. Choose your words carefully. Say, “I’m sorry.” Clean up after yourself. Care for your appearance; a first…
1. For a Patriot. An American Flag. They come with a certificate of authenticity and will be flown over the State Capitol on the day of your choice. 2. For the Law Abiding Citizen. Support your local fire or police station. When we call 911, they protect us, so we should support them. Every station…
It’s not that hard to play nursemaid for close friends or family, but what’s most important about an ill friend or family member is to mean what you say. Not just “I’m here if you need me.” Or, “Call me if you need anything.” Here are few other words and actions to help comfort someone:…
Presence is the ability to project a sense of ease, poise, or self-assurance, especially before an audience. People form 90% of their opinion of us in the first 90 seconds, which is an excellent example of how powerful first impressions can be. How many people do you know who impress us with their clothes but…
Who hasn't been guilty of failing to RSVP? If you're one of those people, think twice, even when it comes to regrets. Like I've said 100 times before, a "no" response is just as important as a "yes" response. Always RSVP and ask yourself the following. Have I ever met a friend or family member…
I'll admit it - I am a paper snob, even in our digital age. Like many of you, I had to adapt to digital everything from meetings to mail to invitations. Because I was born in the paper age when you only received mail once a day, it didn't happen overnight. Now, I have embraced…
It’s official: I’m a Cancerian, but not by choice. My sun sign is Aquarius, but I share many Cancer traits: I’m innately creative and imaginative, and I love to surround myself with beautiful things in my home and workplace. Friendships are important to me, but family is even more so. When my niece was diagnosed…
Saying “thank you” is a polite formula and one that works. Saying it speaks volumes, and since timing is everything, be on your A-game regarding this expression. Say “thank you”… When you are least expected to say it - it will make you a better person. When someone gives you advice or assistance. When you…
As heard by me… 1. "Have a great day." It's 8 pm. 2. "Would you like a box for your food?" There's nothing left on your plate. 3. "Can I get you another glass of wine?" You have not made a dent in the current glass. 4. The menu says "AQ," meaning as quoted. The…
Scenario: I sent a text 10 days ago without a response. Solution: Reply to a text promptly. Scenario: I need to send a text, but I’m at the movies. Solution: This is an inappropriate location to send a text. Wait until you leave the theater. Scenario: My friend sent me a text as long as…
Who gets the check, and when? It all depends on the situation, the invite, and more. Read along to find out who gets the check when… You make the invite: You. You are invited out: Them. A man asks out a woman: On a first date - the man. Call me old-fashioned. Two friends make…
Plan a location ahead of time. Find a restaurant where there are pictures on the menu. Learn basic phrases such as, "What is the house special?" Research local dishes. Google the place you're eating and figure out what you want before you arrive. Eat at touristy spots where they're used to Americans. Use hand gestures.…
First came COVID, then the war in Ukraine, and now inflation. With everything from gas and groceries at sky-high prices, here are some ways that you can curb your spending: 1. Shop until you drop sales. There's no need to wait until the day after Thanksgiving. On the Internet, you can shop 365 days a…
1. Just say no. Cut toxic people (and situations) from your life. 2. Drift away. A drift in communication happens to the best of us. All friendships have a reason, season, and lifetime. 3. Change the topic. Deflection is a great way to remove yourself from a situation. When you change the message, you change…
Don’t walk with headphones in on a busy street. Stay alert when on public transportation. Don’t ride your bike with your phone in public. Wear a mask when on public transportation. Don’t put your items on multiple seats - just your own. Don’t listen to music with headphones in public. Leave yourself plenty of time…
It puts others at ease. It shows that you value and respect others even if you don’t always agree with them. Kindness touches people to their core, and that’s what will be remembered. Knowledge is power. Share yours with others! It pays to ‘act’ interested in others even if they’re boring or they repeat themselves.…
1. Handshake. This familiar greeting between two people changed overnight. It may never again be a standardized greeting. 2. Masks. Like them or not, they're here to stay. If not for covid, then from getting the common cold or protecting against allergies. Silver lining to everything. 3. Disposable. It took a while to adapt to…
Answer the phone politely. Introduce yourself to others. Address adults by their honorific: Mr. or Mrs. Address relatives the same way: Aunt Lisa; Uncle John. Never stare or point at anyone. Say “please,” “thank you,” and “I’m sorry.” Cover your mouth before coughing/sneezing. Always ask before taking anything personally. Bodily noises such as burps and…
I think it’s high time for a rewrite of my 2009 travel etiquette book. Since COVID, everything has been reimagined and air travel tops the list. Here are some suggestions for a smooth flight. 1. Start with the basics. Get vaccinated and check the latest travel rules where you are headed. They change frequently. 2.…
Here are some tips for making a family friendly trip: temperatures are soaring and so might tempers. Keep them in check. 1. Ground Rules. Establish these when you arrive, not mid-week. 2. Electronics- Stand Down. There’s a beach, sand, and sun. Who needs an iPhone, at least on the beach. 3. Shared Homes. You may…
With COVID, many rules have come, especially when it comes to international travel. Make sure you have all your ducks in a row or you may be delayed on your way home. Even if you've had all recommended vaccine doses, you must follow local, state, and federal testing and travel rules. Before Travel Questions Have…
The devil is always in the details, especially when it comes to parties. If you keep these 10 key points in mind, your party will be a great success: 1. Goal Always have a goal in mind. If it’s a bridal shower, make sure your goal is to make the bride happy and free of…
I’m no stranger to ballparks. My father is a baseball devotee. First with the Oakland A’s as Oakland was closer to our home in the Central Valley than San Francisco. If I had only kept my "Campy" Campaneris trophy from “Bat Day,” it would have made a lovely family keepsake. Vida Blue, Catfish Hunter, and…
Here’s a shortlist of what they need to know: Top 10 Maid of Honor Responsibilities Serve as the bride’s point of contact. Go wedding dress shopping and bridesmaids dress shopping too. Plan the bridal shower. Coordinate the bride’s gifts from the bridesmaids. Interface with the bridesmaids' and the bride’s family if asked. Plan the bachelorette…
Most of us in our society are programmed to RSVP yes to events, but RSVPs are not optional. Letting your host know “yay” or “nay” is an etiquette-do. Without it, they are left guessing if you’ll be in attendance or not. Sometimes we say yes when it should be a clear no for many reasons:…
Take responsibility and stop making excuses, or at least try and stop making excuses or giving obvious reasons why you cannot do something. In this day and age when we have access to free assistants like Alexa and Siri, there are no excuses. As the saying goes, where there’s a will there’s a way. So,…
1. Evites. This is the choice of the new generation, and they make sense when you need to reach a lot of people. Plus, the number of designs is infinite. 2. Invitations. Because they come in many shapes and forms, the world is your oyster to be creative, thematic, and just have fun. 3. Letters.…
Perfume has many powers, and because everybody has unique tastes, you may want to find out ahead of time if this is the right gift for the right person. In other words, it’s not always appropriate to gift a fragrance. I have been wearing Halston since I was 16 years old, but no one ever…
1. Diet and Exercise. Follow a clean diet and get regular exercise for the health of it! 2. Dress To Impress. There doesn’t have to be a designer label on the tag to look well-groomed. 3. Hair. Keep it clean and use a brush every once in a while. 4. Maintain Your Style. Whatever your…
The 'tipping point’ happened in 2020. In normal times, gratuity depends on the quality and frequency of service. As servers are paid a low base pay, a little extra can make a big difference in the time of Covid. The amount all depends on the type of service, but one thing experts all agree on…
The best host is one who enjoys her own party. When you are present to mix and mingle vs. take care of details that should have been done ahead of time, the night will not be as festive. The P-word is important, as in ‘planning’ not ‘procrastinating.’ Cramming does not fit into the equation. There…
1. Extra Credit. Provide extras such as towels, slippers, and pillows. 2. Bedtime Comforts. Go the extra step by placing a piece of chocolate and a water bottle in their room before bedtime. 3. Octane Provisions. Show them where the coffee and tea are for breakfast so you can sleep in. 4. Extra Toiletries. Always…
1. White. It’s the bride’s day to wear this color. You have 364 other days to do so. 2. Black. It’s a wedding, not a funeral. 3. Evening Gown. Even if the wedding is black tie, you will outshine the bride and all other guests. 4. Bold Patterns. Keep the leopard motif for clubbing. 5.…
“In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.” – Fred Rogers 1. Be Generous. You have a gorgeous garden; share your tomatoes and your harvest or your…
FACT: People like to do business with people they like. And why not when research shows we form 90% of our opinion in the first 90 seconds of meeting someone. The goal is to let your first impression shine to get ahead, not be left behind. With so much focus on technology, there is less…
1. What types of backgrounds should you use on a professional call? Your house may not look like Versailles, so clean up your background to give the impression that it is. Remove any clutter, knickknacks, or personal photos. If applicable, a company banner looks professional. 2. In what types of scenarios should you have your…
I sang the national anthem at Candlestick Park in San Francisco on Flag Day, June 14, 1996. I had dinner with John F. Kennedy Junior at the Saks men's store in San Francisco. It was his one-year anniversary to Carolyn Bessette. I sang the solo "When I Grow Too Old to Dream" at my high…
Where is far, far away, and how do I get there? Dear 2020, 2021, and 2022, None of this sh** was on my vision board! As the meme goes, “What a year this week has been!” Unfortunately, we are still finding ourselves in a covid conundrum. I want to have parties, but not many people…
Act your best at all times. Apologize when you’re in the wrong. Be kind when you speak. Be punctual. Bring hostess gifts. Don’t criticize others if you don’t want to be criticized back. Don’t be a gossip. Don’t “reply all.’ Don’t send emails in all CAPS. Dress to make an impression. Eat with your mouth…
What a year this week has been. My mom always told me I wouldn’t amount to anything. Yet here I am, saving the world. Can anyone recommend a good breakfast wine? Back in my day, the only time we started panic buying was when the bartender yelled “last call.” I’m having a quarantine party tomorrow.…
Do you need to buy a gift for a destination wedding? Green (aka money) goes with everything, even destination weddings. Although destination weddings can be pricey, a gift is still in order if you attend. Do the same rules of thumb for spending apply? Far-flung wedding destinations are romantic, and a thoughtful bride and groom…
Mi casa es su casa. In 1941, Dorothy Draper wrote Entertaining is Fun, and she was right. Nothing is difficult when you’re organized. While entertaining, the more you plan and pre-plan, the more fabulous your party will be. Lisa’s Golden Rules: Everyone is food-centric these days, so it’s not a bad idea to send an…
If a computer-generated Alexa can respond by saying “on it, “ certainly you can respond when others contact you and on time. Let’s face it: It’s hard not to be responsive. Smartphones are attached to our hips, and Alexa and Siri take our commands within seconds. Yet many people employ a selective response. This is…
Has anyone else noticed that grocery markets have upped the ante on novelty items? It seems that I can’t go to a food market without buying candles, silver polish, or dish towels. Yes, inflation is on the rise but at least it’s one-stop shopping. If you’re Covid paranoid, you can kill two birds with one…
1. Kill them with kindness. As the saying goes, “Don’t let them see you sweat.” You can save that for the gym. 2. Treat them with respect. If they feel disrespected, then your conversation will go nowhere. So always treat others the way you want to be treated. 3. Be reasonable. Easier said than done…
Did you miss a deadline or come to a meeting unprepared? We all make mistakes in life, but recovering from them is the key to success. Often, we make them without even being aware of them, such as wiping your nose with your napkin at lunch or forgetting to make an important introduction. Actions speak…
I’m a window gal, but there are three choices of seating on an airplane: the aisle, middle, and window seat. Most passengers put a lot of thought into choosing their seats, so they might think twice if someone asks them to swap seats. It seems that whenever I fly, I spy an onboard shuffle in…
1. Be on time for meetings. If not, it says that your time is more important than everyone else’s. 2. Keep your desk tidy. Your office is a place of business, and you might have visitors unannounced. 3. Ladies, when seated, don’t cross your legs. Instead, cross at the ankle, please. 4. Make others feel…
A thank you note is always in Vogue, and if you have a stationery wardrobe, you're way ahead of the game. We live in a world of shortcuts which is why we tend to gravitate to a handwritten letter in a pile of mail. What should you write in a thank you note? When writing a…
If you like to entertain and want to show off your hosting skills this holiday season, go ahead and do so, but make sure your guests will want to come back. Here are 10 Common Mistakes Hosts Make: 1. They cancel the party on the day of. 2. They are not ready when the first…
1. The RSVP A regrets-only party is a recipe for disaster. Make sure your invite is clear and that your guests know to RSVP so you can plan ahead versus being left in a bind. 2. Too Many Courses Three courses are plenty. It’s not a fundraising auction where you want people to stick around…
Trends may come and go, but 24/7 online shopping is here to stay, especially during the holiday season. Try these 7 shopping tips on for size: 1. Shop Early. News reports indicate we may have less to choose from this season, so get online early. 2. Check Delivery Dates and if Items Can Be Returned.…
Don’t be shocked at your party if the unimaginable happens. I’ve never hosted a party, or have been to a party where there were no inappropriate actions, special requests, or rude behavior. But, It’s how you handle the situation that counts. Here are a few common mistakes party guests make: They don’t RSVP but still…
Thanksgiving speaks to our stomachs. It’s a day that revolves around food and more food. But entertaining of any kind takes planning. If you serve dinner for 6 or 60, you still need a game plan. 1. Create a To-Do List Start with the basics: guest list, food list, timeline, helpers, etc. 2. Set the…
Relax, you’ve been vaxxed! A vaccination card is the new status symbol and the “it” topic of discussion. Like everything having to do with the Pandemic of 2020, think ‘mass messaging confusion.’ We have been living with a fear of infection for quite some time, but our coping mechanisms are only improving. Here are some…
Anyone else having mask fatigue? As an Aquarian, I am a forward-thinking person who finds it difficult not to plan for the future. I am also over swallowing minute mask fibers and inhaling my own breath, which usually smells of coffee or mints. Masks are now a part of routine life but add the social…
Is it possible to transform an ordinary day into an extraordinary one? It is when you’ve accepted an invitation to attend a formal dinner at Windsor Castle hosted by His Royal Highness, The Prince of Wales. For fairy tale purposes, let’s call it a ball. What to Expect In my 2009 book, A Traveler’s Passport…
Since March of 2020, it seems like Halloween has been one big trick without a treat. You’re probably thinking, “How is it already this time of the year again?” And your kids are probably wondering what’s on the agenda. With the rise in Covid cases, especially among children, your annual Halloween party has probably been…
Grooming. Clean up your act when it comes to brows, eyes, nose, and ears. Remove any unwanted hairs. Coordinate. Black goes with everything, but typically colors that clash do not. Know the best colors that ‘suit’ your skin tone. Accessorize. Jewelry, watches, sunglasses, briefcases, and cufflinks fit into this category. Know the Dress Code. When…
Can you watch my baby while I take a nap? Travel by car or bring along your nanny. The flight attendant is there to take care of you and your safety, not to babysit. Can you lift my bag up to the overhead compartment for me? Check your bag if it’s too heavy. I will…
Life happens when we least expect it. As the saying goes, there’s a first time for everything. I just didn’t think my first time would be giving a eulogy at my young niece Charlotte’s memorial service. I am both sad and honored to pay tribute to her. Death will become all of us, so why…
SafetyDon’t stick out. Leave your family heirlooms and designer luggage at home, or you’ll be a victim. PackingLess is more, so you always have room to bring back gifts from your travels. SelfiesBe mindful of snapping shots in museums or sacred places where it’s not allowed. ReadLearn as much as you can about the country…
Be a Resource For Others. You don’t need to create a resource guide to help others. However, one resourceful act will do. Be Kind, so You Never Have to Rewind. We have all learned this the hard way. Be Nice to People on the Way up Because You Might Need Them on the Way Down.If…
You will have plenty to juggle when planning a wedding. But, if you can have a one-page printed sheet along with a note on your phone with all of your wedding information, life will be a whole lot easier. Here are my top picks, but create your own and plan as you go. You’re all…
Tipping in the time of COVID requires extra generosity. With the global shutdown and everyone shut-in, it’s time to make our re-entry in a generous way. Of course, the amount all depends on the type of accommodation. But one thing experts all agree on is when in doubt, give. And make sure to have change…
Going on a date is like planning a vacation: it’s half the fun! That’s why when your date cancels, it’s normal to be disappointed, but like everything in life, disappointment should be handled with grace. There could be more than one reason for a postponement, so take it at face value without overthinking the why.…
You’ve planned that all-important power lunch. The ask has been made, but that’s just the beginning. Here are some questions and answers to make it a success. When is it okay to start talking business? If business has not been discussed by dessert, by all means, bring it up. If you run out of time,…
What to Say If You’re Asked for a Loan? If you’re going to lend money, there needs to be ground rules so things won’t be awkward. Be firm and employ a script if you have to. Time will be the enemy if your requests go ignored. The longer it goes unpaid, the less likely it…
Travelers’ rights are an oxymoron. We pay more and more for travel, yet we get less and less. According to the Department of Transportation, there’s only a 1% chance that your luggage will be lost or misplaced. However, when this happens, it seems like the end of the world. Here’s how to lower the odds:…
Emails should be short, not essays. This is especially true with the number of emails we receive. Here are a few tips on sending and receiving emails so your message will be read: Focus on your message and get it across quickly, and one subject at a time. Links are fine to include with emails,…
The sky isn’t so friendly for passengers, but friendly or not, safety comes first. If you’re able to assist in case of an emergency - wonderful! So who should not be seated in an exit row? 1. Children under 15 years of age. 2. Passengers with pets. 3. Hearing impaired. 4. Passengers with mental impairments.…
Avoid road rage in parking lots. Play it safe, not sorry If you’re shopping with kids, keep them busy. Make sure to bring snacks or toys. Don’t be a victim of circumstance. Always zip your purse and keep your shopping bags close by. Be courteous to store employees. Your patience may be tried if the…
Friendships can be tricky, and social media only adds to the false allure that my life is better than yours because of a posting while in Paris. Of course, you were in Paris, Texas, but online perception has become the new reality. Friendship is a two-way street, and some people are better at keeping in…
Thomas Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. We all strive to be polite and practice common courtesy. However, sometimes we make mistakes, and often unconsciously. Paying attention to these 10 blunders will help you be socially successful. Wiping Your Nose with Your Napkin. That’s what a handkerchief, tissue, or the restroom…
Unless you have a backyard with a fence, your dog is going to need daily exercise. Always walk your dog on a leash. If you encounter other dogs barking, try and avoid them. If another dog approaches you, ask the owner if their animal is pet-friendly. It’s never ok for your dog to do business…
Sometimes we are rude without even knowing it. In general, stay away from topics that are controversial, like politics or religion. And whether you know another person well or not, some questions should never be asked. Here are some dangerous remarks that can come across as nosy, mean, or “Oops! I just stuck my foot…
When traveling with a senior, speed is your enemy. Slow down and follow these tips: Don't stress them out by giving too much information. Less is more if you want to prevent confusion. Create a written itinerary. Be sure to include contact information for each travel venue. Create this using a pen and paper, not…
How does a naturally polite person draw the line between being courteous and being a pushover? Is there a polite way to say 'no' to someone? Do you say yes when you really mean no? Some people are born pleasers, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing as long as you don’t let others take…
The eyes have had it! When it comes to looking at a computer screen for five-plus hours a day, the eyes will take a toll. Here’s how to help preserve your child’s vision even with screen time being a large part of the day. If not, glasses may be required. Keep a Safe Distance. Remote…
Where do we first learn about money? At home. I recall going with my mother to a Crocker Bank in Sacramento (later acquired by Wells Fargo) to open my first savings account. The teller was tall and thin with Aqua Net hair. She looked at me with very intent eyes then said I had a…
In sickness and in health, we all take to the airways, but with Covid-19, the rules above the clouds have changed. The year the earth stood still, a face mask became the new wardrobe staple, and soon we may need ‘proof of’ vaccination stamps in our passport. Here Are 10 Ways Travel Has Changed Since…
Does anybody miss dining out? I don’t mean outside; I mean sitting inside a restaurant. San Francisco has entered the orange tier, which means 50% of restaurant capacity is allowed to dine indoors. Eating out is still a privilege, and if you’re comfortable and have had your vaccinations, it’s clear that space still matters. Here…
When I think back to all the years that I pleaded with more than one former boss to let me work at home, the answer was always no. Now that we’re home seven days a week, how I wish I could go back to the office if only for one day! In one year, we…
You’re a Caregiver. If you fall into this category, you’re eligible. Slow Rollout. Distribution differs from county to county, state to state, and in a phased approach. If the government can’t get its act together, it’s not your fault. If you find a loophole, why not take it? Underlying Health Conditions. The list is long,…
Virtual dating has gone viral, especially since Covid. It’s the new normal, but it’s not normal at all. It’s one thing to have a zoom meeting, but it’s another to date on a screen. This, of course, will not be our world forever, but it is for now. If you still can’t go anywhere, watch…
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 states the benefits of being with someone. It says that two people are better off than one because they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Why not apply this Biblical passage to mask safety?…
St. Patrick’s Day parades may be canceled, but that doesn’t mean the Irish community and their friends will come out in droves now that bars are back in business. This year, St. Paddy’s Day is not an invitation to spread germs. Instead, let’s continue to spread the joy of the holiday but let’s do it…
What To Expect Virtual career fairs are just like traditional ones; the only difference is that it’s held virtually on an interactive platform. Your online presence will be different because you meet in a chat room as an individual or group. The pandemic has changed the way we communicate. Overnight, a handshake became a weapon,…
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The Vaccine Is Free. And it will help stop the further spread of the pandemic. Do You Plan on Traveling Abroad? If you’re a traveler, many airlines and countries will require proof of vaccination. Additionally, if you travel for work, this is the only one choice. Covid-19 Can Kill You. If you’re not worried about…
Your Health. If you’re not on a respirator, then count yourself lucky. Family Time. The lockdown has brought families closer together. Home Office. You wanted to work from home. Your wish came true. Clarity. The year has brought us clarity to what’s important in life. Connectivity. Humans were meant to congregate, not isolate. Life is…
Check-In. Be a comfort to those in need. Love thy neighbor. Flatten the Curve. If you go out, wear a mask and stay 6 feet apart. Donate Blood. If you’re healthy, help someone who’s not. Deliver Groceries. This is the perfect errand for those at higher risk. Support Local. Help them stay afloat and thrive.…
I’ve never forgotten the episode of Sex and the City when Jack Berger breaks up with Carrie Bradshaw on a yellow Post-It Note, nor have I been able to look at real-life actor Ron Livingston the same way since. The book by author Greg Behrendt of the same name was a best seller, and the…
Three buzz words will get you through the holiday season: location, duration and guests. Translation: outdoors, short and small. Time is still our enemy, even with a vaccine in our not-so-distant future. It won’t happen before the new year and now is not the time to let your guard down. Virus fatigue has set in,…
2020 is a year like no other. Add Christmas and New Year’s Eve to the list and we will have come full circle. Enjoy the annual traditions in a non-traditional way. For your consideration. Prepare For The Worst, Expect The Best. Unpredictable is the word of the season, so learn to adapt to last minute…
Covid-19 has all given us extra time to think, clean and remodel. Even though you may not get to see your friends re-do, you can send them a gift. Try these on for size: Advice: We all have friends whose homes or tastes we love. Advice makes a great gift, while hiring friends isn’t wise. …
Diamonds Are A Girl's Best Friend A new decade birthday deserves special attention. My friend Mary happens to love diamonds, so this was an easy theme. When Audrey Hepburn had breakfast at Tiffany, she wore a diamond tiara and the photos of her are framed in the San Francisco Union Square store. For the invitation…
While no list is entirely inclusive, there are many ways to help not hurt a patient. When President Trump was diagnosed with the coronavirus, I was horrified to see comments on social media about his demise. FACT: The coronavirus does not recognize race, nationality or ethnicity. It also doesn’t recognize red states or blue states. …
Q: Is There An Accepted Optimum Length Of Stay That House Guests Should Observe? There is a common saying: Guests are like fish. They begin to smell after three days. As for Covid-19, less is more when it comes to guests and person-to-person contact. If you have guest quarters away from your main house, that…
Assess Your Risk. Any time you leave your house, you increase your risk of contracting the coronavirus. The sneaky part of this virus is that we can have it and be asymptomatic for up to 14 days, so it’s advised not to travel if you have any flu-like symptoms. Before You Travel. Check the…