Whether you’re a child or an adult, bullying is real. But with adults, we often avoid conversations because they have higher consequences. I learned from experience that anyone can get a master’s in common sense, but that doesn’t mean you can’t or won’t feel intimidation. The unknown is a scary place, but life is far too short to be unhappy.
I looped my parents in about my bully boss while we were on holiday (BTW, the day before I left for my trip, he told me I could not go – I did anyway because vacations were few and far between). When I told them how I felt, they were adamant and said that I should not go back to work. In my eyes, quitting equaled failure, so I just kept riding the storm, hoping things would be better. They got worse. When I resigned, I did so hours before my boss arrived at the office. I slithered through the door, left a resignation letter on his desk then slithered out. The experience haunts me to this day, especially when high-profile women are in the news for the same reason.
My boss was smart, handsome, and successful, but his demeanor wasn’t. In hindsight, I know I should have walked away a long time ago, but I didn’t come to this realization until I matured. If I only knew then what I know now, I would have tried these 5 bullying tactics. I hope they work for you.
1. Don’t Give Them Satisfaction.
When you let them get under your skin, they will go deep. Avoid letting them get a rise out of you.
2. Stand Tall.
Exude confidence even in the face of adversity. Act as if nothing bothers you. You can let off steam after work.
3. Seek Help.
Whether it be a professional or a trusted confidant, you will find that you’re not alone in this issue.
4. If the Issues Get Worse, Quit.
Just do it before you need to seek legal advice.
5. Avoid Online Attack.
You may want to fight back, but what you say and how you say it will live in infamy. Be careful of e-anything which equals evidence.
The Look of Fear!